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Time is a Precious Resource

Every so often, we experience events in our lives that are reminders that can steer us in the right direction.  For me, that reminder occurred over the last two weeks, while my family was on vacation…Time is our most precious resource that we have and that we can give to our self and others.

When my wife started talking about taking our usual summer beach trip and extending it to two weeks instead of our usual one-week, I was a hesitant to agree.  However, about the time we were discussing this, I read a little piece by my good friend, speaker, best-selling author, and Executive Coach, John Brubaker about the importance of using time off and the number of unused vacation days within our country.  As a teacher, speaker and author, the temptation is there to use the summer months as a time to work on writing and connecting with various programs that I am blessed to work with, and when I read Coach Bru’s piece, I thought, “Let’s invest the time and go away for two weeks.”

The two weeks away was the best thing that ever happened for our family.  As a father of two young boys, I had dedicated time to take them to the playground and basketball courts every single day.  We also had quality time in the ocean jumping waves and riding waves.  Since we were away during the Stanley Cup and NBA Finals, we had excuses to stay up late into the night and watch these events.  All of the time we were together is an investment in the building of our family.  Of course I still woke up in early in the morning and did some work, but everything that was done, was an investment of time.

Time is our most precious resource; we can either invest the time or spend the time.  Early on in my coaching career, I would have considered vacation an expense of time, something that I avoided; now time away with the family is an investment.  So the challenge for every Competitor is to look at their time and recognize the investment of this precious resource, time.

Every day is a competition and it is yours to win.

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Core Values Produce Balance

“Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony.” 

– Mahatma Gandhi

The Google definition of balance is as follows: a condition in which different elements are equal or in the correct proportions.  In reviewing the life of the competitor, it must be asked if the different elements that make up the Heart of the Competitor are in balance.

What does balance look like?
Is it an even distribution of time committed to the various passions in our life? (Family, Work, School, Sports, etc.)

Determining what is the proper balance, when life is in equilibrium is the difficult task for every competitor.  However, when it is achieved and a sense of calm comes over the competitor, then will it be known that this is the correct balance.

Balance is also defined as emotional stability and Gandhi alludes to this in the quote above.  The competitor will know and understand balance, harmony, when what you think, is what you say, and what you say is what you do.  When this occurs, there is balance in your life.  The individual with the Heart of the Competitor wholly controls developing this balance.  Each choice is a determination of matching what you think, say, and do.

Everyday is an evaluation of matching thoughts with words, and actions.  If during this evaluation a mismatch occurs, condemnation should not follow, but a repositioning.

Question of the Day:

Evaluate yourself today; did your thoughts, words, and actions match each other?  Did they move you forward toward your goals?

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Small Changes Get Big Results

As we near the end of the summer and many parents, athletes, and coaches are preparing for a new school year we can evaluate our goals and determine what changes we would like to make to achieve at our highest level. Many people see the word CHANGE and cringe; they lack the foresight and mental toughness to know that change is continuous and leads to improvement.

Do you know what is great about the changes that occur in our life?

The smallest changes can make the biggest difference. About 15 months ago, I made a small change to my before bed routine, this small change added on average 34 seconds to my bedtime routine.

What was this one small change?

I began flossing. That’s right, I started to floss each evening and it takes about 34 seconds for me to do this. There was very little change in the dentist appointment that I had six months after starting to floss, however, the big change that occurred was this past week at my usual nine month teeth cleaning, the entire appointment from the time I walked in the door until the time I left, lasted a whopping 34 minutes and my dentist informed me that I had a great set of teeth.

Why is it important that you care about my dental hygiene?

The truth is, you should not care about my dental hygiene, but you should care about the small things you can do that will make a big difference for you. It is the small things that we do over and over, that do not seem to matter when we are doing them, that lead to the big results and payoffs in our life.

The truth is most people will not do the small things that are seemingly insignificant but will lead to success.

How do we know this? According to the American Dental Association, 50% of Americans DO NOT floss daily. That means that 50% of the people refuse to do a little thing that leads to greater health.

Those that perform at their best on a daily basis, the Champions of Competition, commit to do the small things that do not seem to matter, and they commit to doing them with uncommon focus and energy.

What is a small thing that you can change, add, or adapt in your life as we prepare for a new school year?

Share your one small change with me, by simply commenting on this post.

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Life is a Clumsy Balance


“A career path is rarely a path at all. A more interesting life is usually a more crooked, winding path of missteps, luck and vigorous work. It is almost always a clumsy balance between the things you try to make happen and the things that happen to you.”

– Tom Freston, Entertainment Industry Executive


Albert Einstein reminded us that in order to maintain balance in life, we needed to keep moving forward, to keep pedaling our bike. The Yin and Yang introduced us to the understanding that what we view as opposites are actually complementary and are interdependent of each other. Gandhi taught us to live in harmony by matching what we think, with what we say, and what we do. These individuals and concepts have existed for an extensive period of time. Tom Freston, on the other hand is a 21st century entrainment industry executive, having been one of the team members that founded Music Television, known as MTV.


Mr. Freston’s quote above is a short, yet powerful lesson on the balance that is required in life to progress on our journey of developing the Heart of a Competitor. While he begins with a reference to a career path, he is truly relating balancing adversity and experiences in life, and this is true for the competitor within us. Our journey to the Heart of a Competitor is fraught with winding missteps, luck and vigorous work. Through the adversity, the learning opportunities that many people refer to as mistakes, the competitor embarks on the winding road, not a path, which is life.


The Heart of the Competitor is always searching and pushing to make things happen, searching for opportunities to make their mark, improve their skills. There are times, when it is more about utilizing the things that have happened to you and not what you have made happen. Balance is essential to being open and prepared for things to happen to you and being able to respond. Dynamic balance is utilized when moving in athletics and dynamic balance is needed in our competitive and mental well-being. The dynamic balance to keep moving forward and enjoying the journey as events and things happen to you.


Question of the Day:

Evaluate yourself today; did your thoughts, words, and actions match each other? Did they move you forward toward your goals?