This past weekend I had the opportunity to attend the Be the Best Coaches Convention in Atlantic City, New Jersey. When attending a coaches conference it’s always amazing to me that those coaches that have achieved the most success in terms of wins and losses are the ones who want to learn the most.
At the Be the Best Coaches convention there were a number of successful NCAA Division I softball coaches, including University of Tennessee Co-Head Coach Ralph Weekly, University of Michigan legendary Head Coach Carol Hitchens, University of Oklahoma’s Head Coach Patty Gasso and James Madison’s Head Coach Mickey Dean. Each one of these coaches was a presenter at some point during the convention, however, when they were not presenting, they were engaged in the various presentations, trying to pull new insights they could use into their program.
When I came home from this convention, I did a little research on the success these head coaches have had. These four coaches have combined for 4,476 wins and 1433 losses. This is means these four coaches have won over 81% of their games. While they have achieved the success in terms of wins and losses, they refuse to be satisfied with where they are. This is common among all high performers, the desire to get better, the status quo is not acceptable.
A second lesson learned from each of these competitors is their respect for each other. This respect is the true focus of competition. The root of competition is seeking with our opponent to play at the highest level, not competing against the opponent to pull them down. If the highest achieving coaches can demonstrate this respect, then each of us can do this in our everyday life.
This is living with the Competitor’s Heart, the confidence to know you are great, but the desire to become more. As you work to become more and compete, you respect your opponent to the highest of levels.
Continue to build your Competitor’s Heart and remember that everyday is a competition and it is yours to win.
The only limits are those that we place on ourselves. Humans remind themselves why they should not be doing something or why it will be difficult to accomplish. We create reasons why we should step aside and maintain the status quo.
The Heart of the Competitor fights the status quo mentality. The Heart of the Competitor does not settle and accept what is. They understand what is and pursue what they want. The Heart of the Competitor does not impose limitations on what they do and what they are able to accomplish.
To fight the thought of limitations, the Heart of the Competitor creates a daily plan for moving forward. Not just creating a list of things to accomplish in a day, but a consistent movement forward to push the limits. What will you accomplish today? What are you going to do to propel yourself through any limits that you or anyone else has tried to place upon you?
Remind yourself on a daily basis that you are pushing past the possible into the impossible. The Heart of the Competitor says, “I’m possible.” Whatever you can create or visualize in your mind, you can accomplish and achieve.
Question of the Day:
What are the limitations that you have imposed upon yourself that you need to break through?
Every person has some form of self-talk they engage in. A conversation in your mind that will drive you to achieve success and pushing forward or will find reason why you cannot be successful, causing inaction and passiveness. These reasons that can be created in our mind as to why we should stop and not move forward with a project or an idea are resistance. Resistance can come in many different shapes and forms. The resistance or pushback may come from outside of you in the naysayers that drag you down and say it cannot be done. The pushback may come in events that are “perceived” as a reason why we should not push forward. The pushback may come from within your mind, reasons developed without basis as to why you should stop.
The Heart of the Competitor welcomes this resistance as a challenge to grow and become more. This pushback is essential to discovering the limitless resources that are located within the Heart of the Competitor. The Heart of the Competitor engages in positive self-talk and pushes their mind to the reasons why they will be successful in their endeavors, destroying any push-back they may experience. Average people in the world will talk not only their own mind out of doing anything and being anything, but they will also attempt to drag others down from doing anything and being anything. The Heart of the Competitor destroys those people, destroys that pushback and uses it as momentum to accomplish great things.
The negativity that others and even your own self-talk will provide is akin to the stretching of a rubber band. A rubber band is only useful when it is stretched to its’ maximum length. The rubber band is performing to its’ full capabilities when it is stretched and at this full-length, it is experiencing maximum resistance. When it is let go at this maximum resistance, it does its’ greatest work.
Question of the Day:
What is the greatest resistance or push back you have experienced? How have you found a way to overcome it?
As we enter the first week of 2017 take the time to pause and reflect on the year. As you reflect, try to do this impartially, allowing your mind to observe what occurred. These events and your progress will eventually be labeled as successful or not however, we challenge you to truly reflect on the progress that has been made in your life. If you do not see progress, make a commitment to use your strengths in 2017. Notice I said, use your strengths, not improve on your weaknesses. It is commonplace for people to choose a New Year’s resolution in an area of their life they are dissatisfied with, an area of weakness. This approach is a set-up for failure.
This week, I challenge you to a new way of thinking for the year 2017, choose a word that will provide clarity and direction to your life for the entire year. (This process is outlined in the book One Word the Will Change your Life by Jon Gordon, Dan Britton, and Jimmy Page)
Over the last three years, I have utilized the process of choosing a word that you will live out and engage in for the year. This process has provided clarity and direction. My word for 2014 was “Enjoy.” Throughout 2014, my focus was enjoying every moment that was gifted to me. While my word for 2015 “Growth,” I have been blessed with immense growth throughout the year. Here was my post for the beginning of 2015 post on the word “Growth.”
For 2016, the word “Respond” chose me. This word chose me because our lives are made of our responses to what is occurring around us and as I reflect on 2016, my responses were focused and the awesome piece is that I enjoyed personal and professional growth throughout the year. You see the process of living out a word that has chosen you does not end with the change of a calendar year, the words stick with you. Here was my post for the beginning of 2016 post on the word “Respond.”
So for 2017, the word that has chosen me is, “Engage.” As competitors and agents of change, we are called to engage with every person or experience that comes into our lives. In writing this weekly newsletter, my goal is to engage with the TRIBE of Competitors.
We are looking for you as a member of the Community of Competitors to help all of us RESPOND in 2017 and ENGAGE in the process of choosing a word that you will live out for the calendar year.
This brings us to you. What do you want out of 2017? Over the next week, as you mindfully progress through your work on a daily basis, observe what is occurring and what you want for this year. Forget the easily broken new year’s resolution and choose a word that provides clarity and direction for your life. When you have decided on a word, email it to me, share it on social media with a message to me, or comment below with your word.
Check out the book that outlines the process of choosing one word: One Word the Will Change your Life by Jon Gordon, Dan Britton, and Jimmy Page
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Enjoy and grow throughout this week.
Yours in Competition,
Chief Competition Officer