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Perfection is NOT the Goal


Diamonds are a precious resource and are a great example of what it means to be a competitor.

  1. Diamonds are formed about 100 miles deep within the earth, where it’s hot and there is a lot of pressure. This is true for us as individuals and as a part of a team, we are forming and preparing in the heat and under pressure of competition.
  2. Diamonds are brought to the surface of the Earth as a result of a violent explosion that propels them quickly through the earth, cementing the Carbon bonds in place. (A 1 Karat diamond has billions and billions of bonds.) When you are experiencing adversity, you are being propelled through the heat and pressure and you are cementing the bonds of a team or the strength in your competitive mindset in place.
  3. Lastly, Diamonds are used as a sign of commitment and strength. It is a commitment based on bonds, and it is a strength that is so strong, it is used on blades to cut through bricks or pavement or in life to signify the commitment of one person to another.

Diamonds are seen as these valuable resources and gems, signifying commitment and strength, however it is important to note that diamonds are rarely ever perfect. Approximately 26,000 kilograms of diamonds are mined annually and a fraction of these are considered “perfect” when they are pulled from the ground. Even after they are mined, they go through many processes and cuttings to be built into the fine jewelry that is sold around the world.

This is true for all of us in the Community of Competitors; we are being formed through heat and pressure and are far from perfection. We are undergoing change on a daily basis to be chiseled into a fine competitor. Just like the strength of a diamond, we have the strength and the beauty to be chiseled away into a valuable competitor. This chiseling and process that we undergo does not lead us to perfection, but enhances our growth and allows us to become more than we ever could have imagined.

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It’s not the How, it’s the Why!

Last week, we noted a small change that could make a big difference and allowing that small change to be present and impactful when utilized over an extended period of time.  Our society has evolved into a fast-food, immediate results driven world, however anything that is worth building requires persistence over an extended period of time.  So when making our small changes, we must commit to sticking with these small changes to allow them to have an impact in our lives.

For me, the small change for me was the planning and preparation that goes into selecting clothes that I will wear for school.  Last year, I committed to planning the clothes I would wear for the week and my closet looked like this:

Every Saturday, I would plan out my outfits for the week.  This simple step would save me time throughout the week, so I never needed to make a decision in the morning and waste time figuring out what I would wear.  This small change saved me time each morning for the entire school year.  This was a small change that led to big results over a long period of time.

Which leads me to this school year.  My closet now looks like this:

Instead of spending time each Saturday planning out the clothes for the week, I have created 16 sets of outfits that can be rotated throughout the first month of the school year.  This will allow me to be even more efficient and move down through these combinations and eliminate the weekly decision-making that was previously required.  This is yet another small change when implemented over the long period of time will save time and allow for big results.

What goals do you have that you could use a little more time to accomplish?

Commit to making the small change over a long period of time and you will achieve big results.

The Community of Competitors Newsletter is not about telling you how to go about living your life, but it is about the WHY in your life.  Those with the Heart of a Competitor have a WHY.  The WHY for me in adapting my closet is to provide the time for me to have an impact on your life, so I can share the energy and enthusiasm with you.  This Community of Competitors will only grow when I share the energy and enthusiasm with you, so I am asking this week that you make one small change and share this email with one person that think can benefit from the Heart of a Competitor’s message.

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Small Changes Get Big Results

As we near the end of the summer and many parents, athletes, and coaches are preparing for a new school year we can evaluate our goals and determine what changes we would like to make to achieve at our highest level. Many people see the word CHANGE and cringe; they lack the foresight and mental toughness to know that change is continuous and leads to improvement.

Do you know what is great about the changes that occur in our life?

The smallest changes can make the biggest difference. About 15 months ago, I made a small change to my before bed routine, this small change added on average 34 seconds to my bedtime routine.

What was this one small change?

I began flossing. That’s right, I started to floss each evening and it takes about 34 seconds for me to do this. There was very little change in the dentist appointment that I had six months after starting to floss, however, the big change that occurred was this past week at my usual nine month teeth cleaning, the entire appointment from the time I walked in the door until the time I left, lasted a whopping 34 minutes and my dentist informed me that I had a great set of teeth.

Why is it important that you care about my dental hygiene?

The truth is, you should not care about my dental hygiene, but you should care about the small things you can do that will make a big difference for you. It is the small things that we do over and over, that do not seem to matter when we are doing them, that lead to the big results and payoffs in our life.

The truth is most people will not do the small things that are seemingly insignificant but will lead to success.

How do we know this? According to the American Dental Association, 50% of Americans DO NOT floss daily. That means that 50% of the people refuse to do a little thing that leads to greater health.

Those that perform at their best on a daily basis, the Champions of Competition, commit to do the small things that do not seem to matter, and they commit to doing them with uncommon focus and energy.

What is a small thing that you can change, add, or adapt in your life as we prepare for a new school year?

Share your one small change with me, by simply commenting on this post.

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Big Thinking Leads to Big Doing

In his book The Magic of Thinking Big, Dr. David Schwartz provides twelve statements that contrast a “petty thinker’s” approach with a “big thinker’s” approach. His 4th statement focuses on the future and is as follows:

Petty Thinker:          Views the future as limited.

Big Thinker:             Sees the future as very promising.

The Heart of the Competitor sees the future, understands the promise of the future and pursues this promising future every single day. The promising future pushes the limits of what is currently and while doing this, achieves unbelievable and unimaginable dreams.


You are this person, you are the BIG THINKER and because you see the future as promising, you act to make it happen. You have the Heart of the Competitor and you consistently and persistently march forward to make your future a reality. In those moments when doubt creeps into your mind, your faith kicks it out with vengeance. You choose to live and compete with faith, stomping out any fear like a whack-a-mole.


The promising future that you envision must be followed with the work and attention to detail to accomplish this future, pushing yourself to accomplish something difficult and worthwhile everyday. In pushing to achieve a difficult and worthwhile objective you are developing the promising future your Heart of a Competitor desires.




Question of the Day:


What reminders will you place in your life to remind yourself and remember the future is promising?

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Life is a Clumsy Balance


“A career path is rarely a path at all. A more interesting life is usually a more crooked, winding path of missteps, luck and vigorous work. It is almost always a clumsy balance between the things you try to make happen and the things that happen to you.”

– Tom Freston, Entertainment Industry Executive


Albert Einstein reminded us that in order to maintain balance in life, we needed to keep moving forward, to keep pedaling our bike. The Yin and Yang introduced us to the understanding that what we view as opposites are actually complementary and are interdependent of each other. Gandhi taught us to live in harmony by matching what we think, with what we say, and what we do. These individuals and concepts have existed for an extensive period of time. Tom Freston, on the other hand is a 21st century entrainment industry executive, having been one of the team members that founded Music Television, known as MTV.


Mr. Freston’s quote above is a short, yet powerful lesson on the balance that is required in life to progress on our journey of developing the Heart of a Competitor. While he begins with a reference to a career path, he is truly relating balancing adversity and experiences in life, and this is true for the competitor within us. Our journey to the Heart of a Competitor is fraught with winding missteps, luck and vigorous work. Through the adversity, the learning opportunities that many people refer to as mistakes, the competitor embarks on the winding road, not a path, which is life.


The Heart of the Competitor is always searching and pushing to make things happen, searching for opportunities to make their mark, improve their skills. There are times, when it is more about utilizing the things that have happened to you and not what you have made happen. Balance is essential to being open and prepared for things to happen to you and being able to respond. Dynamic balance is utilized when moving in athletics and dynamic balance is needed in our competitive and mental well-being. The dynamic balance to keep moving forward and enjoying the journey as events and things happen to you.


Question of the Day:

Evaluate yourself today; did your thoughts, words, and actions match each other? Did they move you forward toward your goals?